Some men would describe women as chaotic (meaning in a state of disorder or confusion). It is true that some women are in a state of disorder and confusion, especially if there is a lack of guidance from parents, their husband, or a spiritual leader or mentor. However, "chaotic" is not women's natural state of being, and men, for the most part, know this at their core.
It's why men prefer to turn over the duties of homemaking and child caring largely to the woman of the house. It's difficult to be a great homemaker without having a high degree of order and organization skills. Many women have proven to have the ability to be clean, organized, and even to multitask when they are in a chaotic or hectic environment. This goes to show that women actually have to ability to bring order to a space.
But this doesn't change the fact that there are women who display an inability to organize and control themselves and their space. If you happen to be courting or married to a woman who is "chaotic", try analyzing her chaotic traits one by one. Then ask yourself, "Can this trait or habit be beneficial under any circumstance?" Oftentimes, our behaviors that seem destructive or problematic aren't so bad once they are used in the proper context. There is a time and place for most things. If you discover appropriate ways that her chaotic behaviors can be used, take it upon yourself to assist her with placing her these traits in it's proper place so that they are not a bother to you or destructive to herself.
If there are habits that are destructive, lead her to correcting this behavior by presenting to her all the possible ways that it can be harmful. Simply telling her that she needs to stop doing it may not be good enough to convince her, especially if she is strong willed. You will need to make a logical, valid argument about why those particular traits or habits must be done away with. It would also help if you suggested to her a more positive behavior to replace it with.
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