Can a Good Woman Change a Man?

We would like to believe that we could change any man that we desire, but many of us have found out the hard way that we just can’t do it. First of all, men don’t like when someone tries to change them, and neither do women. To quote one of my favorite authors, Shahrazad Ali, “Women expect a man to accept them as they are, but they try to change everything about him.” I guess we made the mistake of trusting in our build-a-man abilities too much, but later found out how difficult it is to make or remake a man.

On the other hand, there are a few men (emphasis on few) who became a better man and accredited the woman in their life for the changes they made. If those women were able to change a man, what’s stopping the rest of us from having the same effect? Maybe those men already wanted to change.  Maybe their woman came into their life at the right time. Or maybe those women possessed a little something called influence.

Indeed, a person decides on their own if they want to make a change or not. But that doesn’t mean that someone can’t influence or inspire the desire to make a change. Many women struggle with sparking this desire in a man, but it’s not necessarily because they aren't good women. It could simply mean that they're just not the right one for that particular man, but once he meets Ms. Right, he will do whatever it takes to improve for her.

We all have a little fire in us that can use a some fuel. Maybe some women are better at finding this fire in their man and throwing fuel on it, which sends him on a path to change. Many women either can’t find their man’s fire, or they can but don’t have the right fuel. It’s only a small percentage of women that know how to do both, and these are the women who have successfully “changed” a man. Not by making him become whatever she tells him to become, but by inspiring him to become a better version of who he already is. 

At the end of the day, no woman can motivate a man to become a better version of himself if she doesn’t know who he really is or who he wants to become. If more couples took the time to find out these things about their significant other, I’m sure we would see more men and women changing because of the influence their partner had on them.