As the feminist movement picks up steam in the African American community, there is a counter movement picking up momentum as well. This movement, consisting of both men and women, speaks against the destructive rhetoric and behavior of feminists. It is, however, the women of this movement who have been referred to as "pick-me's". If you don't know what a "pick-me" is, it is a name feminists call women who love, respect, and defend a man's honor. To a feminist, this is a form of pandering, and seen as an act of desperation. They feel these women are searching for men's approval and practically begging men to pick them over other women.

It isn't just nice guys who are passed up for the bad boys. Nice girls are experiencing a similar thing at the hands of men, and sometimes it's the nice guys who are doing the passing up! Why is it that men and women seem to prefer to date those who walk on the wild side?